If it’s not already out in the open, let me say it right now: I am the passive one of the group. I am the non-confrontational one of the group. I avoid contentious issues, and when I do talk about it, I don’t talk about the issue so much. I try to find that middle ground, if that’s possible. In the realm of politics, I would rather not have my opinions known, in large part because I have no idea what I’m talking about; or, more accurately, I know what the issue is, but I don’t know what I think about it or how to back up my arguments. Most of the time, I don’t think that far ahead. The way I see it, and so be it if I’m wrong, it’s a very passive way of living in the moment.
I have friends and family on all sides of the political, social, and religious spectrum. Who am I to judge anybody who has a different opinion than I do? This is one thing I wish people on all sides of these spectrum would understand. Whatever happened to “judge not, lest ye be judged?” Did our world become so selective that we put on our rose-colored glasses, or blinders, or whatever you want to call it? One of the worst traits the world can have is to lose our objectivity. I’ve been guilty of this, too- I am stubborn to a fault on many things, although these are more psychological reasons than anything else. If there’s a recurring theme with my life, it’s that I base most of my worldview based on psychology rather than politics. They can be mixed together, but they can also exist mutually exclusively of each other. Can I really call myself a “better” person because I’m on one side of a particular issue? In certain contexts, “better” can be a very dangerous word. As an HFA, I’ll say this: how you say it is just important as what you say.
Perhaps there is strength in silence. Maybe it’s better not to know sometimes. The notion of being “better” than anybody is a very dangerous concept. So many times, they say you’re “better” by just walking away. But I don’t want to be better than anybody. I just want to be. When did that become so impossible?
I have many friends that have gone out into the front lines, risked everything – including friendships and reputations – to have a chance to be in the world, on both sides. Maybe this is my way of being in the world. Somebody’s got to do it. We all show strength in our own way. This is my way.